What to Say at a Funeral When You’re Grief‑Stricken and Numb

Sometimes, grief takes our voice before we ever reach the pulpit.
The room feels too bright, or too silent, or too full of the wrong people.
And in your chest, where words once lived, there’s only fog and thunder.
You don’t know what to say—because nothing feels true enough.

That’s okay.

You are not broken. You are not failing. You are simply mourning.

If you’re called to speak but frozen by sorrow, try saying just this:

“There is so much I wanted to say, but my grief is too heavy.
So instead, I offer my silence as proof of my love.
May their memory outlast my voice.”

That is enough.
Sometimes the most sacred eulogies are not recited—they are felt.

And if the words never come, I can help you find them.
You don’t have to do this alone.

Based in Los Angeles. Writing for the world.

I create poetic, private eulogies for the moments that matter most.
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